Knowing when to let go of something/someone can be very difficult, especially when you consider our history and memories with the object or person. I won’t get into letting go of someone, but I would like to start smaller: how do you know when it’s time to let go of a pair of shoes?
I have had these shoes since 2013, and I have a lot of memories with these. From family events, going out, school, and the list goes on. I love these shoes for two reasons: 1. Because they’re dope and inadvertently I have gotten a lot of compliments about them 2. I have so many good memories tied to these
But, like everything in life, there comes a time when something no longer meets your needs for whatever reason. In my case, these shoes have seen a lot of action and are no longer at a point where they are presentable to wear at work or public events. Would have they lasted longer if I had taken better care of them? Yes. But if I loved them so much, why didn’t I put in the work to maintain them? I was lazy and didn’t put in the effort or energy to maintain them. So, now I have to make a choice to keep them, even though they no longer meet my needs (due to their condition), or I need to get rid of them.
It has taken some time for me to mentally come to grips to this reality and prepare to get rid of them. Now some may think, “It shouldn’t be hard to get rid of a pair of shoes. They’re just shoes” and I understand that logical rationale. But for me, I do associate memories with my sneakers, clothing and even other objects which makes me attached to them. This can be seen as an issue and can eventually manifest itself into a bigger beast, for example hoarding.
People who know me know that I have a lot of cool things. It is difficult for me to let things go, but I am continually growing to be able to be in a healthier place where I can come to grips and have a sense of closure, before getting rid of things. I know it may sound weird, but I feel like it can help me practice for when I feel this way about people and relationships in my own life.
Anyway, I wore these to work one last time. I will still have the memories, and in all honesty, I will probably end up buying another pair lol. It’s okay to love something/someone, but sometimes things change and it is no longer meeting your current needs. It may be difficult, but I feel like it’s healthy to work on ourselves to get to a place where we process our ties to things/people and can let things go in a healthy way
By the way shoutout to my sister for the dope baseball socks